“If you attack error in another, you will hurt yourself. You cannot know your brother when you attack him. Attack is always made upon a stranger. (T41)”
1 – We Are Not Seeing the Holy
When we attack, we are not seeing the holy in our brother. We are not seeing his (or her) innocence. So we are not seeing truly. We have made of him (or her) a stranger. I would see truly today, and that means that I forgive what has never happened in the real world. I am always lost in illusions when I attack. This is not the way to live peaceably in our world.
2 – Personal Experience
I once verbally attacked when a brother did not respond as I would have wished, and this is among my greatest regrets in life. Be careful of how you respond, even if great stress is making for the insanity. We do not want to look back on our lives with regret of any kind. We can ask for forgiveness internally, and sometimes externally–to the one affected. This will give us a measure of peace of mind.
3 – The Insanity of Guilt
When we attack, we may feel momentarily better, but then the insanity of guilt will overcome us. We will feel worse than before, and this comes from knowing that we have betrayed both our brother and ourselves.
4 – Our Brothers and Sisters Are Innocent
Recognizing the innocence in our brother even if he (or she) has attacked us first, is to know the evidence of insanity in our world. A special relationship is usually filled with attack, once the bloom of infatuation is off the relationship. A holy relationship, however, has moved beyond the specialness (which was always a lie), and knows one’s brother as the loving Self that he (or she) truly is.
May I make no brother or sister a stranger by attacking that person. May I realize that I have always made him or her a stranger when I have attacked. I would make nobody a stranger unto myself. Help me to stay true to this resolution.
May I understand that I make a stranger of my brothers and sisters when I attack them. We also turn inward to attack ourselves at this same time. We are all One.
May I see the innocence even in attack received from another. Attack is a form of insanity–nothing more. May I forgive and walk into the light.