“It is because you have made him a stranger that you are afraid of him. (T41)”
1 – See the Self in Our Brothers/Sisters
When you sense fear of your brother, you have made of him (or her) a stranger. You do not really know the Self that is loving.
2 – No Sacrifice Is Asked
Of course, there are times in our world when we need to take precautions against harm from another. The Course is always practical, and it does not sanction sacrifice of any kind. No sacrifice is ever asked of a child of God.
3 – Anger or Attack
In everyday events, though, we usually feel afraid of our brother when we have reacted in anger or verbal attack. Then we may even wonder if our holy relationship is irreparable. Certainly these thoughts make of our brother a stranger, and make us afraid of what he (or she) may do, even if he may sever the relationship. In extreme cases, this may happen. We must realize another Course tenet, though, that no relationship is ever lost to us. Those who have once formed a relationship will meet again, to make of what may have been only a special relationship into a holy one. The Course does not specify when this meeting will happen, but seems to imply that it may be beyond the veil of death. Eternity is stressed repeatedly in the Course.
4 – Make No Brother/Sister a Stranger
Make no brother a stranger, then, if we would know peace.
My I retain my holy relationships, and let not even one fall into a “special” relationship. In so doing, I will make no brother or sister a stranger to myself. And I will not be afraid of any person. If I feel fear, may I understand that I have made a stranger of one who is actually a brother or sister. May I encourage friendly relationships with all. May I not depend on special relationships to save me, because this is a dead end. May I turn to You to transform the special relationships that I do have to a better place–a holy relationship. This holy relationship will give us the assurance of Your grace that heretofore we have all lacked.
May I know that all who meet are destined to meet again, to make their relationship a holy one. Thank you for this reassurance.