Love will enter immediately into any mind that truly wants it, but it must want it truly. This means that it wants it without ambivalence, and this kind of wanting is wholly without the ego’s ‘drive to get.’ (T61)”
Affirmation: “wholly without the ego’s ‘drive to get'”
1 – Don’t Limit Your Love
We sometimes limit the love that we can receive by specifying that this love must come from a particular source. Such thinking usually signals that one is dealing with a special relationship, not a holy one. But the Course would purify our special relationships, rather than remove them from us by force. All special relationships are meant to become holy eventually.
2 – Love Comes in Many Ways
We would do better if we did not specify the desired source of the love that we invite to come to us. Then the real world can deliver our desired love in any number of ways. Love is not always found in a special relationship, even in the beginning. The love of nature, for example, is a great healer in times of stress. The love we desire does not have to be always from another person.
3 – Love Is Always There
When we truly want love in our lives, it is there already. There are no exceptions to this rule, though the ego would often make us think so. God answers our prayer for love by sending into our lives the love that is ours for the asking. We do not have to plead or to
struggle. We simply need to ask. And this is truly without the ego’s “drive to get.”
4 – The Ego and Special Relationships
The times when we strive so hard for the elusive goal of “love” is a time that our love is the “special” love relationship that the ego always leads us toward. While the Holy Spirit will not remove our special relationships from us, He would purify them, turning them into holy relationships. We know that we do not feel great stress at such a change, though the change may disrupt the relationship for awhile (a Text tenet). With holiness as our new goal, we are led to drop egoistic thinking from our minds and to walk into the sunlight with God and our brother.
I do want love. I want love to enter my life immediately and unconditionally. I don’t want my ego to interfere.
May I drop all desires to have something that my ego dictates. May I have, instead, the love that You have promised me.