Happily Lay Judgment Down

“It is not difficult to relinquish judgment.  But it is difficult indeed to try to keep it.  The teacher of God lays it down happily the instant he recognizes its cost.  All of the ugliness he sees about him is its outcome.  All of the pain he looks upon is it result.  All of the loneliness and sense of loss; of passing time and growing hopelessness; of sickening despair and fear of death; all these have come of it.  And now he knows that these things need not be.  (M-10.6)”

 

Affirmation:  “I would relinquish judgment today.”

Reflections:

1 – Pain = Caused by Judgment

Today’s passage from the Manual of A Course in Miracles continues the theme of judgment.  It makes clear that our pain is a direct result of the judgment in which we have been engaged.   The negative ramifications are indeed dire.  We need to give up judgment.  It comes close to being mandatory, though ACIM does not make this direct statement.

2 – Review Today’s Passage Frequently

If we could avoid all pain by giving up judgment, is this not an end result that we would want?  Indeed, yes.  If we could avoid the fear of death by giving up judgment, would we not rush to such a remedy?  Today’s passage says this and much more.  It would be a good passage to return to over and over, when our resolve falters and we find that the ego has intruded, with our judgment being an unwelcome result.

3 – Judgment vs. Evaluation

Judgment and evaluation are different.  I used to wonder, when doing peer evaluations in my work, if I were actually judging.  I was not sure that judgment and evaluation were different.  But now I recognize that an evaluation, done in the spirit of incomplete knowledge, is a technique of management in the work environment.  We do not have to make emotional and negative attitudes a part of our evaluation.  When we have invited the strongly emotional and the negative, we have indeed switched into judgment.  Keep in mind that we cannot see the whole picture, the whole picture being reserved for the Holy Spirit.  So we walk tentatively when we try to evaluate our world, to determine what we need to say or do in regard to others with whom we live and work.  We know that we may be mistaken in our evaluations.  But, especially, we do not fault a person for poor performance in a judgmental way.  Using the term, “judgmental,” may be a clear way to discern the difference between judgment and evaluation.  We do not have to thrust our brothers and sisters away from us when we see poor performance.  Our cooperation with them is all that our evaluation ought to elicit from us.  Cooperation has been seen to be mightily superior to competition, though not everybody is able to accept this finding in the social sciences.

Prayer:

Dear Father/Mother,

I would not judge past, present, or future today.  I would not judge anyone whom I think (just think, of course) has mistreated me.  This world is illusion, and there is no way of knowing what I personally did to bring on the attack.  

I would also note the difference between judgment and evaluation.  They are very different, and evaluation is a much more benign concept.  Our world does hinge on correct evaluation, though intuition is often the route that we would take to know how to frame an evaluation.

Thank You for the good way in which this day has begun.  May goodness come to all my brothers and sisters as well.

Amen.

2 thoughts on “Happily Lay Judgment Down

  1. Nadia

    I have been struggling with this concept. I understand it’s importance, I’ve just been confused as to how to apply it in my life. I’ve come out of a very traumatic situation where I was severely betrayed and psychologically abused. I am torn between keeping this person in my life (which I logically and intuitively know would be a horrible decision for me and my children) and steering clear of him and moving on with forgiveness. I am judging by saying he would not be good for my family, but to “cooperate,” as you state, seems like a dangerous option. I am torn between the need to protect myself and children and the need to follow ACIM teaching and not judge. It seems like no matter what the situation, it is impossible to serve both your own best interests and those of another. Though, I know I’m not even aware of what those “best interests” are truly. Still…a confusing predicament for me. The entire world argues with me that, “Obviously, stay away, look at the horror that has already happened!” But, then J says, “Don’t judge and don’t deny your brother.” When your brother is a symbol of pain and abuse, not denying him means denying my family’s well-being. Any thoughts or clarification on such a situation would be greatly appreciated!

    Reply
    1. Celia Hales Post author

      Dear Friend,

      I am so sorry. I will try to address your concerns as best I can, knowing that your desire not to judge is part of the reason that you are conflicted.

      First of all, A Course in Miracles does not address physical and mental abuse or cruelty. (Others may disagree with this, but I have not found this topic covered in ACIM.)

      It seems to me that you are confusing “judgment” and “evaluation,” which, as you noted, I tried to address (though in the much less volatile way of peer reviews in a work setting). You are right to note that forgiveness of the individual you mention is needed. But nowhere in ACIM are we counseled to stay in an untenable situation. Would this even be Love at all? God is Peace and Love, and He, with the Holy Spirit, will be there to guide you in what may be a difficult decision. Jesus does specifically say that some individuals are ready only for a smile, being unable to accept more.

      My public e-mail is as follows: celiahales@yahoo.com

      I care. Write to me in private if you would like, and I will respond.

      With concern, Celia

      Reply

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