“Your faulty memory has caused you to believe love can be used to keep you safe, to make you happy and bind to you those you choose to love. This is not the case, for love cannot be used. (A Course of Love, 9.3)”
Affirmation: “May I come closer to understanding love today.”
1 – Bind Closest?
Many of us subscribe to a definition of love that is not unlike what Jesus has said in this passage, by implication, as incorrect. But when we look at the conclusion of the passage, that “love cannot be used,” then we more readily agree. We know that sometimes, even when we have studied the Bible, A Course in Miracles, and A Course of Love, we still would try to bind closest to us those whom we love the greatest. Is this really wrong?
2 – Two Solitudes Turned Inward
In the manner in which we do so, yes. When we bind closely to us those whom we most love, we are all too likely to force those individuals to give up some of their freedom as they “care” for us. We become greedy, wanting all their time. And even in this world, two solitudes turned inward, only toward each other, are recognized as being disfunctional.
3 – Free Those Closest to Us
If we remembered correctly, not with a “faulty memory,” we would know that to turn loose our nearest and dearest is the easiest way to bind them to us. This is not a play on words. It works. Only in freedom is love at its finest and best. Only in freedom do we know what love is at all.
4 – Do Not “Use” Love
We do not actually want to “use” love. We would not try to do so, if we knew what we were really doing. And if we try, what we do is counterproductive.
5 – No Coercion
May we turn our nearest and dearest loose into God’s love today, and then when they turn to us, we will know that they turn with full hearts and minds–ready to give love and to accept our love, totally without coercion.
I would seek to free my nearest and dearest today, not to find anyone to me by any means that is wrong. All of us crave freedom, myself among them, and I would not want to be “bound.” Let us recognize how best to love by giving up all false conceptions.
May our love be true and honorable. May we leave nobody out of this love. May we turn to You when in perplexity about love’s rejection. May You tell us what to do. I know that You do tell us, for You have told me.