“Let us ask instead how loving all as one can bring harm? If you love all the same, what loss is there to anyone, including the one you would choose to make special? All that is lost is specialness. (A Course of Love, 14.31)”
Affirmation: “I would choose to love all in my life.”
1 – Betrayal?
There is little in this passage with which to disagree, if the passage is understood in its fullness. Certainly parents love all their children, and what love is given to one is not normally taken from another. Yet when it comes to our significant other, our brother/sister, we often think that if we love someone who was once “special” to us, then we are betraying our brother/sister, the one in our life now. This is not so, but the explanation does take a little consideration.
2 – Love Is Forever
Any love, once experienced, never fades entirely. Once there is love, it is forever. Even the playwright William Shakespeare says this. And certainly the love that is expressed in our scriptures is meant to be a forever thing. We transform the specialness of our relationships into holy, and in a holy relationship, there is no room for jealousy. We bind ourselves with a tight bond to the significant other in our life, but we do not put blinders on, to eliminate all thought of the other loves that we have known. This is reality, and there is no reason to feel guilt in reality.
3 – Lose the Specialness
We would lose the specialness that, all too often, tries to cling to our loves. Specialness can turn to hate, and to indifference, whereas genuine love remains itself–heartfelt love that knows no ending. May we experience this heartfelt love for others today, and may we turn to God within in our experience. There is no room for specialness in a world that can become beautiful by the love we harbor for all living creatures.
I would come to realize ever more deeply today that love is all one, though we have different kinds of love for the individuals in our lives. We never outgrow a love that has once been in our lives. We never dismiss it entirely. And we will reconcile on another plan, as A Course in Miracles tells us.
Thank You for this reassurance. May we love, and love greatly, for this is our way out of fearful and anxious thoughts. This is our way home to You. And I would go home to You today.
Be with me as I seek to know You ever more deeply.