“This is the view of life you cannot imagine bringing about, or bringing joy in its coming. But this is what you must begin to imagine if you desire to accept love’s coming instead of to reject it once again. For your refusal to give up specialness is your refusal of the Christ in you and a refusal of love itself. (A Course of Love, 14.31)”
Affirmation: “I would give up specialness in love today, replacing it with the holy in love.”
1 – ACIM and ACOL
Here A Course of Love echoes much that has been emphasized in A Course in Miracles. ACIM postulates that special love turned to holy, in relationships, is our way home. In the process of turning special to holy, we learn how to forgive. And in the forgiveness, we recognize that the others in our lives have always been either calling for love or loving. Even their anger and attack are reconsidered as calls for help, or love.
2 – Special to Holy
We do not lose anything by turning our special loves into holy ones. This may be what we fear, for much romantic love is actually specialness, and that is why the romantic love can quickly turn to indifference, or even hate.
3 – Leave Behind
Let us have none of this nonsense. We are better than this. We are God’s children, eager to do His will. And would we turn our back on any of His children, even those who seem to have turned away from us?
4 – Forgiveness
We will never know peace until forgiveness finds a place in our hearts. We forgive as much for ourselves as for another. This is the ultimate secret of why forgiveness is so important. We cannot proceed to Atonement with God until we have gotten our hearts right in love that we actually do feel for others, the love that may be hidden over by hate.
5 – Hate
Give up a refusal to love today. Nothing anybody has done to you is worth the anguish of hate. Know that not everyone is able to love as freely as we would desire, and this is not a failing. All have free will, and are given the means to turn to whomever they choose. They too may know rejection. It does not matter. Our hearts will soften, in forgiveness, and we will have taken giant leaps ahead on our pathway back to God. Forgive for yourself as well as of the other.
I would focus on love today, love undiminished by any negative emotion. Help me to do this. I know that this is what You want for me.
I would not ever let hate hold a place in my heart. Hate normally comes from being hurt badly, and I am fortunate not to have been hurt that badly. May my brothers and sisters who have known the depths of hurting, be healed.