“Is it such a huge leap to go from saying you only exist in relationship to you only exist as relationship? You think it is, and feel your self further diminished and lacking in identity just by contemplating such an idea. And so you must be reassured of the Self you are. (A Course of Love, 27.10)”
Affirmation: “Help me to understand that I exist as relationship.”
1 – Definitions
What is the difference between existing “in” relationship and existing “as” relationship? “In” relationships we are still two entities (extended to many) that are in concert one to the other. “As” relationship means that we are not unique in any way, but that the one Self that we are is simultaneously everywhere.
2 – Hard Point
This may be a hard point to grasp. The subtleties are great.
3 – Selves/Christ in Union
To accept that we are “as” relationship, we must recognize the One that is everywhere and everything. This is another way of speaking of God. And we have already grasped that our one personal self is a part of Him. Is it such a giant leap to see that our Self is actually Selves–Christ in union with all?
4 – Theology
This is part of the theology of A Course of Love. It is not necessary to take this understanding unto yourself if it seems obtuse. Jesus says in A Course in Miracles that theology may only delay us, for a universal theology is impossible; a universal experience, though, is indeed possible and is to be sought out.
5 – Be Patient
Let the concept in today’s passage rest lightly on your mind. As time passes, think of “in” and “as” again, and see if this distinction is beginning to be more acceptable to you. But do not fret if it is one of the last concepts in ACOL to find your nod. We are learning much by observation, and as we progress, in the future, through the other two volumes of ACOL, we will find much that will support the distinction of “in” and “as.” Then the difference, though great, will not seem so forbidding. (Note: Two earlier portions of this blog covered parts of the Volumes 2 and 3. These were the “Forty Days and Forty Nights,” covered from April 1 – May 14, 2010, and “Treatise on the New,” covered from May 22 – December 31, 2010.)
I would seek to understand today that my Self is part of the One, the Whole, and that all Selves are One. Thus to say that we all exist “as” relationship makes sense. Help me to comprehend today.
May this day good well. Thank You for the good beginning. May all of us answer each other’s needs, and may our wants that truly are needs be answered as well. The solution is with the problem. And may obsessions drift away.