“Only those who give over all desire to reject can know that their own rejection is impossible. (T48)”
Affirmation: “give over all desire to reject”
1 – Rejection Is of the Ego
Rejection is of the ego, and once we relinquish the desire to reject our brother, we too know that our Self cannot be rejected by God. This may be hard to incorporate into our self-image. We may have played rejection records–going around and around on an illusory turntable–for years. Some of us never quite get over the first rejection from a romantic interest in high school. But knowing that rejection is of the ego, we can soothe our troubled memories.
2 – God Never Rejects
Knowing this is a great release. We cannot be rejected by God! What a glorious incentive to give up the ego. Knowing that God does not reject may seem cold comfort in our low moods. We may not feel the warmth of His presence as we do at other times. We may wish for a human being to return our love, and that reciprocation just may be lacking from our lives.
3 – What to Do in Romantic Rejection
What do we do then? What if a special someone has rejected us, and we cannot seem to get beyond the hurt? We can know that love does not ever leave us–just sometimes it comes in other forms than the romantic package that our culture has led us to see as the greatest blessing. Actually the romantic love of our culture is defining a special relationship, and A Course in Miracles counsels us that this is of the ego, not read at all. Even when we are in a relationship, we are counseled to turn that specialness into the holy. That is the only way to find lasting peace. That is truly the only way to love authentically.
4 – Worst Experiences
All of us have known rejection. We may remember these incidents as among the worst of our life. But we do not have to be wounded irreparably. There is a way out. Once we have started to turn away from the ego, our perceptions are cleansed, and we at that time know less rejection from others. This is a principal motivator of ACIM. And once motivation has been increased, we are well on our way to the Atonement.
5 – Disappointments
Rejection from others, or our own personal rejection of self or others, can be one of the main disappointments in life. Once we truly realize that it is ourselves who have initiated any rejection, even when it seems to come from others, we are healed. “Projection makes perception,” as ACIM tells us. We had a hand in our own rejection. And we can choose again. Indeed, we must choose again–if we are to be healed.
May we realize that in rejection, we are in the driver’s seat. We have made this situation, however much we may try to blame others. Help us especially not to blame You.
I thank You for the time that healed my own experiences with rejection from others. I thank You that now my significant relationships are in the process of being turned into holy relationships. May I do my part to see this process continue and to be completed, in Your good time.
May we cease to contemplate rejection in any form. When this is accomplished, we will be well on our way to Atonement, a lasting Atonement.