“You must forgive God for creating a shared reality before you can understand it is the only one you would want to have. You have to forgive this reality for being different than you have always imagined it to be.” (ACOL, 6.1)
We often want things for ourselves alone. We don’t want to share.
This attitude probably came from childhood, when our parents tried to get us to share with our brothers and sisters. Children don’t like to share. Now that we are adults, we often feel the same way. We want mine!
Sharing is the way of God’s world. We are not independent creatures, set in isolation in this world. We are amid many, many other individuals, our brothers and sisters, with whom we share our experience here. We need each other. This is a sometimes disturbing truth about our lives. We don’t want to need others. We think (along the ego’s thought lines) that if we are autonomous, we will not need anybody else. We will stand on our own two feet, independently; this is, we think, for maturity is all about.
But we are wrong. And when we recognize that maturity doesn’t demand autonomous living, we will open our hearts, at first ever so little, to other people.
We will live better when we have opened our hearts. Indeed, the heart is the way that Jesus is reaching us in A Course of Love. The heart knows truths that the mind cannot fathom. And we know better how to live when we let the heart guide.
Try sharing just a bit of yourself today. If this seems too threatening, tell yourself that it is just an experiment. See if you don’t have a day that flows better.
Sharing works. Sharing with our brothers and sisters is the way that we are meant to walk in this world. We don’t lose anything by sharing; all gifts belong to all of us, but nothing is taken from any one.
God will bless you when you reach out to others, giving your gifts freely to others, even as you enjoy those gifts also. The way back home is walked two by two, holding our brother’s hand, holding Jesus’s hand. There is no better way to live maturely.
We have truly grown up when we recognize that keeping our gifts close to our chests does not help anybody, lest of all ourselves.