“Child of God, you need no imaginary friend when you have beside you he who is your friend always and would show you that you have no needs at all. What you truly are cannot be used, not even by God. See you not that it is only in illusion that you can use others who are like yourself?” (ACOL, C:9.31)
Jesus is here talking about himself, not as an imaginary friend but as a real entity taking us by the hand and leading us to ultimate salvation. He has often in A Course of Love indicated that he is with us, guiding us. He apparently clones himself, outside time and space, to be anywhere that he wishes, with anyone, simultaneously.
We will have to believe even in the face of our disbelief. We will have to realize that there are wonders possible in this universe that we cannot comprehend. Jesus’s omnipresence is one such mystery. But if his assurances give us comfort, should we not make the tiny effort to understand and to believe?
We are encouraged in ACOL not to use others, but to serve them. Our service to others is the important point. Never do we get anything lasting out of trying to “use up” the value of another, to our own benefit. This is an egoic urge, a very selfish one, and one of which we need to be forewarned. In this world, previously, we have often “used” others to our own benefit. We have offered conditional love, predicated on getting something from another. And then, when we get the something that we want, we think we love in return.
Such is not love, but use. We have diminished the worth of our exalted brothers and sisters by turning them into agents of our need. But we learn that we have no needs, that our needs have all been met and are being met. So why do we continue to seek to use others? And why do they comply?
It is a matter of wanting love. We learn in ACOL that giving and receiving are one, and in learning this, we are sure that service is our best response to others. When we serve them, we set ourselves up to receive the best that they can offer. But we have not “used” them to gain. It is an even exchange.
We don’t use Jesus when we accept his free offer of help, of guidance in this world, of him being with us in this world. He offers to serve us, and we accept, knowing that in turn we will serve others. And the mission that Jesus is upon becomes clear to us in this equal exchange.
We love and are loved in return, but not in a conditional sense. The love is freely offered, and then given in return, and we are free of egoic using of another free individual. Our minds and hearts are in the right place, finally.