“You have an interesting saying in your world: ‘It takes one to know one.’ Do you think you would even be able to judge another if there was not something within you being elicited that triggers within you the belief that you know exactly what that other one is up to? That is why you judge them. Sometimes you judge harshly because you fear that energy in yourself. Or you remember how hurtful you have been when you acted from that energy.” (“The Way of the Heart,” WOM, Chapter 3, Page 26)
Essentially Jesus is talking about projection here. We dimly recognize in ourselves something that we see in another. We can recognize it in the other, because we have something just like it in ourselves.
This gives pause for thought. If we are judging another for something we deplore, do we not have the characteristic ourselves? This is what he is saying. We can recognize it only because of this: “It takes one to know one.”
Does this not remove all propensity to judge another? Does this not tell us that judgment is a very bad idea indeed?
We must realize that we are aware of something in the outer world because of our own psyche, the thing in us that even allows us to recognize a given trait in another. We have not often taken this idea to its roots, but the bottom line is that we cannot know another unless we have experienced the identical characteristic. The kicker is that we don’t recognize this in ourselves, and so we project on another, where it seems safer.
Let us give up this foolishness now and forever. If we recognize love in ourselves, we will recognize love in another.
And that is where we want to head.