In forgiving mistakes, in ourselves as well as others, we no longer need to feel that we must hold ourselves “above” another (more special than she). We are all in this together. As I forgive my brother of the illusory evil that he does, miraculously I find that I am more tolerant of my own mistakes. Everything is not a matter of life and death, purest glory or blackest sin. If I can overlook my brother’s misdeeds, forgiving them before I study them sufficiently to make them seem real to me, then I am well on the way to handling my own problems with the same benign feeling. Judgment always reverts back to the one who judges. That is the truth of “Judge not, that ye be not judged,” and the A Course in Miracles has given us the explanation of why this is true.
The desire for specialness simply dissipates. One wishes instead to be part of the great mass of humankind with a kind of mystical love that leaves one at peace. The guilt engendered by the false pursuit of specialness and separateness from one’s brother dissipates as well. On some level, we all intuit that holding oneself apart, with a little sense of superiority, is actually self-deception and evidence of a shabby self-perception, not an exalted one. (M-21.5:5) Walk with Jesus as together we seek to join hands with all of our brothers, enemies in specialness no more.