We can choose, metaphorically, whether we will experience life or death. In every miracle is life, and in every impulse to hurt a brother is death. Surely we choose the latter far more often then we think. Even the tiny, “inconsequential” hurts are painful–to us if not to our brother. And so they call for forgiveness. The answer to any attack, in fact, is forgiveness.
How may we right the wrong when we have chosen “death” over “life”? There are no easy answers. We can and should ask the Holy Spirit for His answer, and it will always mean that forgiveness is called for. It is not just forgiveness of our brother, but also of ourselves for having made this mistake, having hurt one who is a Son or Daughter of God. Sometimes forgiving ourselves is much harder than forgiving our brother, because we always attack ourselves first, and once we withdraw blame from others, we have a strong tendency to harbor it within ourselves.
–from Out of the Maze, an e-book by the author of this blog.