Another problem we create for ourselves is that we see an interval of time between forgiveness and its rewards. This represents the degree to which we would still keep our brother separate from ourselves. Once this faulty decision is undone, the time interval collapses, and we see the results of forgiveness come quickly on the heels of the forgiveness itself.
Part of the reason for a time lag between forgiveness and its results is a “space” problem. We still would see some distance between our brother and ourselves; we are not yet ready for the collapse of boundaries between us. This is an error, part of the time-space continuum that is fundamentally illusion. Will a true joining, a true collapse of boundaries, and it is ours. What do
we fear? It is love itself, for love of our brother results in true joining. Just so long as there are spaces in our togetherness, that distance between will be a problem and an exemplification of the love that we fear to make our own.
We fear for our safety as we join with our brother, for we do not trust him completely. His mistakes may be profound, but the Christ in him is innocent still. It is only his insanity which we fear, and we are never asked to join with that. Indeed, we would make our own mistake if we attempted to do so. In fact, this is the essential problem with “special” relationships. But we must look at the purity within our brother’s heart, and joining with that in spirit only, we reinforce it in our brother, to the betterment of us all.
–from Out of the Maze, an e-book by the author of this blog.