Our brother sees “sin” in himself. If we see sin in him also, we but reinforce an untruth, not only in him but in ourselves. Surely it is that we see in others what we have first seen in ourselves; that is the law of projection, and, if we can believe the A Course in Miracles, projection makes perception.
Does that mean we must deny the evidence of our eyes, and proclaim good where there seems to be only wrong? No! That would be a further deception, and it is the truth that we seek. We must acknowledge the wrong that we see, but recognize that, like all sights our physical eyes show us, we are seeing something unreal–a dream, if you will. However badly our brother seems to treat us, this still is true. It is our dream, showing us something that we don’t want to see, but only so that we can learn from it. We are bade not to dwell on this unreality, thereby making it seem real to us, and making it harder simply to overlook and thereby forgive. (T-9.IV.4:4-5)
–from Out of the Maze, an e-book by the author of this blog.