Is it not true that a child learns best when one expects good in her? Act “as if” a child will respond positively, treat her as you would want a good child to be treated, and the tantrums will fade away. On the other hand, to focus on the tantrums is to make them stronger. It is the same with our brother. Expect the best, let him know that you are seeing the best, and his motivation will fall in line, making our brother a better person. We must never show that we fear negatives from him; that would be a reinforcement of the possibility of those negatives. Instead, accentuate the positive in all prayers and all interactions. Let him know that we love the real Self, and that real Self will blossom before our eyes. It is indeed very dangerous to act in any other way. We are all potentially capable of great wrong, and it behooves to turn aside this potentiality, in ourselves and in our brothers, at every opportunity.
Given this scenario, if we play our part right, our brother will cease so much to see “sin” in himself, and he will adopt our own attitude toward him. He will begin to act out of the real Self, which is good, because his self-image has changed for the better. And is this not what we would hope for all people?
–from Out of the Maze, an e-book by the author of this blog.