“The delights of love are tenderness, purity, affability, sincerity, integrity, nobility, and compassion. Gather them all. Hold them always in your hands, and walk the path of life, carrying the bouquet of flowers that God himself has given you. . . .” COL bk.2, 15:II
A couple of these adjectives to describe love are new to channeled writing, namely, affability and nobility. Let’s see what might be meant by these two new words.
Affability is an open attitude with a relaxed manner. When we exhibit affability, we are warm to our brothers and sisters in this world. We don’t take offense. We accept. We are easy to get along with. We don’t stress and strain. We live and let live.
Nobility is perhaps best understood as an attribute of our being when we have moved into Christ-consciousness. It is not an egoic attribute, therefore, though we may have previously thought that we were better than others, and this is a form of believing in nobility. Nobility in Christ-consciousness is different; there is no hint of egotism. We carry ourselves well in this world, knowing that we are Sons and Daughters of God.
We are warned in A Course of Love not to form images of ourselves. And so there is implied here a warning not to “attempt” to develop qualities of mind and heart just because they are good qualities. An image is an idol. This attempt smacks of egoism.
There is a way that we can incorporate these characteristics without forming images. In the right way, we don’t “try” so hard to be something that we are not, or something that we have not yet become. We let personality change evolve. We are patient.
Today let us contemplate these virtues of personality, keeping in mind that we don’t want to give the ego another carrot stick to aid its continued development.
Let us instead ask in prayerful consideration how we might incorporate all that is good into our very Self. We will then hold God’s bouquet.