“Tenderness counteracts anger. No war can stand against it. Purity appeases and banishes the evil intentions that sometimes creep into the heart of the child of God.” COL bk.2, 15:III
If we ever face anger in our relationships, here is the antidote: tenderness. Here we read that no war, even, can stand against tenderness. When we are tender, we are expressing a purity that is lost to us when we give in to anger.
A Course in Miracles says that anger is never justified. But that does not mean that we will never experience anger. We are still living in this world with feet of clay, and as long as we are finite creatures, I believe that there will be misunderstandings that cause hard feelings. ACIM also says that forgiveness is the Answer. And when we forgive, we must not leave ourselves out of the equation.
So here we have it, from two sources combined: Tenderness and forgiveness will lead us aright. Tenderness and forgiveness will right the negative pattern that might creep into our relationships.
Sometimes we will need this reminder, because we are still in need of God’s help as we walk this world. Anger will come, but anger will also go. And here we have the message from Choose Only Love that will heal our overwrought feelings. Negativity cannot stand when we listen to God’s solution.