“I do not need the one that you call my Mother; she does not need me. But, oh, how we delight in creating together that which extends the holy, the good, and the beautiful—without end! Will you come and play with us?” (“The Way of Transformation,” WOM, Chapter 13, Page 168)
“Need” is a slippery term. Jesus and Mary are both whole in themselves, united with God, and so the human aspects of needing a soulmate are muted.
We might learn from Jesus’ example. If we approach our significant others with “need,” they may be overwhelmed, and paradoxically be less able to actually help us. Our neediness drives them away, something that we don’t want. When we love from a full heart, united with God, we love aright. And “needing” another person is not part of the equation.
Of course, we are not as advanced as is Jesus, nor Mary. We sometimes do “need” human companionship and human love in addition to what we feel from God. This is as it should be. We don’t have to pretend that we are more advanced than we are. But our relationships blossom when we don’t lean on each other. We go to God for that support.
Don’t burden our nearest and dearest with gigantic needs than only God can fulfill. Enjoy the companionship and the love, but go to God when we feel needy.
This puts things in the right perspective.