“Beloved friends, looking backwards into time, into your seemingly personal experience can seem horrifying. Yet I say unto you, the sense of horror that many of you feel is not linked to the memories themselves. It is only linked to what you have decided to believe about the memory, and nothing else.” (“The Way of Transformation,” WOM, Chapter 18, Page 222)
We are frightened not by our past, but by our interpretation of the past. It is all thought of the mind, and our feelings come into play from our thoughts.
We can scare ourselves by revisiting the past at any time. But why would we do that? Why not let dead dogs lie? Contrary to much popular psychology, reliving the past doesn’t clear our minds so that we are happier; reliving the past only embroils us in turmoil, making the problems and difficulties of the past seem real in the present.
There is a better way. Transmute the difficulties of the past by embracing the negativity with a big bear hug. Keep our arms wide open, but don’t use the mind like a laser that would focus on those difficulties. If we focus, we make those difficulties “real” again, though we know that we are only living a dream. If we focus, we magnify the difficulties.
Be gentle with ourselves. Just embrace, forgive, let love do its powerful work of eliminating the sting of bad times of the past.
The past is over, and reliving it does not ensure that difficulties, even the same difficulties, will not arise again. But we will be better able to handle the problem now when we have loved away the past trauma.