“Your worth is not established by teaching or learning. Your worth is established by God. As long as you dispute this everything you do will be fearful, particularly any situation that lends itself to the belief in superiority and inferiority. Teachers must be patient and repeat their lessons until they are learned. I am willing to do this, because I have no right to set your learning limits for you. Again,–nothing you do or think or wish or make is necessary to establish your worth. This point is not debatable except in delusions. Your ego is never at stake because God did not create it. Your spirit is never at stake because He did. Any confusion on this point is delusional, and no form of devotion is possible as long as this delusion lasts.” (A Course in Miracles, FIP ed., T-4.I.7)
An important quotation, because so many of us struggle with confusion over self-esteem. As the ego manages self-esteem, we will never measure up. As our spirit measures self-esteem, we cannot help but measure up.
And this quotation tells us why: Our worth is established by God. We don’t have to “do” in order to merit His approval. He has made us perfect, and only the extent to which we have varied from this epitome, in our dream, is what needs remedying. We are worthy, still perfect in our essence. And this, in itself, must lead to a very serene sense of self-actualization in our depths.
We constantly compare ourselves to each other. This is wrong. All talents will one day be shared equally, and, in the meantime, when someone else has what we lack, we too have something that he/she lacks. All of this comparison leads to either a sense of superiority or inferiority. And to demoralization. There seems no way out.
But there is a way out. Simply repeat to yourself, “My worth is established by God.” If this affirmation doesn’t work for you, then commune with our Maker to ask what and how you might believe what Jesus has said is true.
We need to get over the delusion that we have to merit approval from God. We will stay confused as long as we think that egoic ideas are separating us from our Creator. It is true that, in the illusion, the dream, we are separate from God—but in reality, we have never left.