“The only judgment involved is the Holy Spirit’s one division into two categories; one of love, and the other the call for love. You cannot safely make this division, for you are much too confused either to recognize love, or to believe that everything else is nothing but a call for love.” (T-14.X.7)
This quotation states a fundamental truth of the teachings of A Course in Miracles: that everything is either love, or a call for love. This is how we are to view the words and actions of our brother as well, our significant other(s) who is walking this world with us. He is either expressing his love for us, or he is calling for us to overlook his attack and to know that that attack is a call for love from us. These are the only two choices.
We cannot make this division ourselves, not at this juncture. Appeal to the Holy Spirit when confronted with attack; know that this need not be. He will make the judgment that one’s brother is only calling for love. We will be too overwrought to make that distinction. But the One Who can will speak to us and calm us. Then we will be in the best position to run to our brother’s side with the love that he needs so desperately.
Don’t run to your brother’s side if he is not yet receptive. There will come a time when he will be receptive. And, if you are listening to the Holy Spirit, you will know when that time is. This is the time to act. Not a moment later. But be sure that you are discerning correctly. Be sure that your own overwrought emotions have righted themselves. Be sure that the Holy Spirit is saying, “Act NOW!”