There are many lesser conditions that are nonetheless extremely transformative, such as the replacement of special relationship with the devotion of holy relationship that we have already spoken of. (A Course of Love, D:Day7.12)
Here we see that the turning over of special relationships to oblivion does, in fact, constitute a tremendous transformation when the replacement is made by a holy relationship. We feel contented and safe, something that special relationships could never give us. We know, in our bones, that this one—this holy relationship—will continue eternally, if not in physical form then in ethereal. Even if the relationship should end, we would know that it wasn’t a real ending. In A Course in Miracles, Jesus says that all who meet will meet again. And we can understand that this is on the Other Side, or, if we believe in reincarnation, then in another life. This can give us some of that content that we long to have, for we long for permanence in a changing world. Eternity gives us that permanence.
If we long to be content in this world, what are our options? We must indeed turn over everything that has disturbed ongoing content. And special relationships are at the top of the list. We know this intuitively, though we may still think, with our superficial mind, that specialness gives us something that we want.
It doesn’t. Specialness only disturbs our peace. And it is peace that augurs content.
Be glad to transform all relationships to holiness. We will never regret this action of the will. When it is done, completed and finished, we will know that we belong to everybody, and that this connection takes nothing from the significant others with whom we share this lifetime.