“Forgive the sins your brother thinks he has committed, and all the guilt you think you see in him.
“Here is the holy place of resurrection, to which we come again; to which we return until redemption is accomplished and received. Think who your brother is, before you would condemn him.” (A Course in Miracles, FIP ed., T-19,IV.D.15-16)
We are locked in a passionate embrace with our brother. We can forgive his “sins,” because they be but mistakes, and once forgiven, all gone forever. He feels guilty for his misdeeds. Would we help him by seeing guilt in his as well? I think not. In these mistakes (mistakes are inevitable), we learn what forgiveness really is. We forgive and forgive, 70 times 70 (as the New Testament says), and after a while the dirty cloth of judgment is washed clean, slowly but surely. Dipped in soapy water repeatedly, the black guilt becomes first gray, then just a dingy white, and then, ultimately, entirely white. White as snow. Just that white.
We don’t have anything to fear. Our way is forgiveness of the misdeeds, misspent words, and lamentable thoughts of our brother. When we have achieved the goal of turning over all these mistakes, for judgment by the Holy Spirit, we are home at last. The Holy Spirit will always judge us as the innocent children of God whom we are. He condemns no one, just as God condemns no one. Our way is fairer in this world. We walk a green earth again.
Our brother is our partner in salvation, our means back to Heaven, a Heaven on earth. Would we fail to forgive, when all our brother is asking is forgiveness? We are responsible creatures. We assume responsibility for the mistakes of both ourselves and our brother, for we are actually one. There is no difference. If he has entered our world, our self-contained world, we are really not self-contained at all, but one with him. The fact that he is in our world means that we are in this together. We especially don’t need to assume a self-righteous stance, because the errors that we see him committing are only our own errors, not acted out but seen in him.
Let’s leave behind judging entirely. Judging will block us from Atonement. It is forbidden entirely, as is fear, attack, planning (defensively) about contingencies to come. Leave all of these negative things to the Holy Spirit, Who can handle them magnificently.
We have nothing to fear. God’s plan is benign. And we are saved from ourselves, when we forgive our brother—the one given us by God to love.