False Shame

“Those who are true leaders follow until they are ready to lead.  They do not strike out on their own at the beginning, before they know the way.  There is no shame in learning, no shame in following the course another has put forth.  (A Course of Love, 1.9)”

Affirmation:  “I would follow and lead, at different times.” 


1 – Leaders and Followers

We are often taught in school that being a leader is somehow preferable to being a follower.  And, so, as a result, we may lead, but in wrong directions.  Let’s don’t do that today!

2 – Heading toward Observation, not Learning

We need to learn until we are ready to lead by observation (A Course of Love tenet).  The old way of learning will indeed eventually fall away, but most of us have not reached that point yet.  We still have learning to do, and there is no shame in recognizing this.  Indeed, the recognition is a strength and asset.

3 – No Need for Shame

We need not feel shame if we know less than others in any given direction.  We know more in other directions.  Always there will be those who know more and those who know less, but we are all, ultimately, equals.  It is only remnants of the ego that would assert that we ought to be leaders always.  Our spirit knows that we have more humility than that.

4 – Insidious Emotion

Shame is a particularly insidious emotion.  We would do well to ask for guidance in leaving behind such a destructive thought.  Here in A Course of Love we have the guidance, we may believe, of Jesus.  Most of us recognize him as an elder brother who has walked the pathway ahead of us, and thus is in a particularly good position to show us the way.  He will correct all mistakes that we cannot correct (a tenet of A Course in Miracles).  He stands at the end to help us tie up the loose ends of our salvation.  Let us be grateful that indeed, at that point, we accept our place as followers and do not try to lead.  We would surely lead ourselves astray.


Dear Father/Mother,

I would lead about only what I am knowledgeable, and I would pray to You to guide me in what I say and do, and, yes, even think.  We reap what we sow, and I would sow good things today.  Help me to be emotionally and physically healthy, ready to do Your bidding.  And may those whose lives I touch be helped by the interaction.

Let us forget a minute about leaders and followers.  Both have their place, in different arenas, in our world.  And let us not lead when it behooves us simply to follow.

And the best one to follow is Jesus.

Thank You for his life and example.