The way we view our brother is actually the way that we view ourselves. If we attribute dark motives to him, it is sure that we are projecting those motives from within ourselves. And mild annoyance can be just as debilitating as more aggressive forms of hostility. We are never angry at something that is “really there”; what we see is always a projection from our own false image of self, our ego. To believe otherwise is to construct a room without exits in this illusory and sad world of ours.
We can see the dynamic of blame played out with our brother. First, for whatever reason, we unconsciously feel fear; this fear floats about looking for a place to alight, and just a word, of whatever nature, from our brother is enough to create anger. The whole encounter revolves around fear, but we will more likely correctly identify what transpires if we allow ourselves to
experience the fear as stress. We can then more easily bring ourselves around to a better slant of mind, without torturing ourselves by looking for the source of fear. Ease up, and ask for respite from the Holy Spirit. It is our little mind, the ego, that has gotten us into this fix, but it is our Higher Mind that can get us out. If we dwell a moment upon our brother’s sterling qualities, the sword of guilt above our heads will no longer descend to touch our heart.
–from Out of the Maze, an e-book by the author of this blog.