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Be Determined to Give Up Specialness

“While you desire specialness for yourself, your true Self will remain hidden and unknown, and since this is a Course that seeks to reveal your true identity, specialness must be seen for what it is so that you will desire it no longer. You can have specialness or your true Self, but never both. The desire for specialness is what calls your little self into being. This is the self that is easily wounded, the self that takes on grievances and refuses to give them up, the self that is prone to pettiness and bitterness, resentment and deception. Be truthful as you examine yourself and you will see that this is so.” (ACOL, C:15.3)

Jesus appeals to our better nature when he asks us to consider what the little self is really asking of us; it is asking for pettiness and bitterness, resentment and deception. Are there really any among us who would want these things? And these things are come as a result of our desire to cling to specialness, thinking that we are better than anybody else. What a bad deal this really is!

There is nobody among us who has not, in league with the ego, wanted to think that we are superior in some way to others. This is a reverse to an inferiority complex, and psychologists say that there is no such thing as a “superiority complex,” that it is always a feeling masking the sense of inferiority. This makes sense, for we have long blamed ourselves for not feeling right with God. We sense a separation from the Almighty, and we think that we are to blame for this, adding guilt to our sense of having somehow failed. This is the dynamic that is really going on in the push to be special. We sense that we somehow have failed at life (which we have), and we think that specialness will cure this deep feeling of despair.

Specialness won’t cure anything. It will only compound troubles. We are encouraged to give up thinking about specialness for ourselves as well as our significant others. We are to love, and love freely (though within certain physical restraints). We want to let the Self out to play, the Self who knows true reality and will lead us rightly. We cannot cling to the specialness of our little self and also acknowledge the true worth of our real Self. And our real Self is our salvation.

The Self who is real will free us to be ourselves, for the first time in eons. When we let go of our desire to be special, we will see that the Self holds our release from dark imaginings.

Let’s concentrate on giving up specialness as much as we have concentrated on giving up the ego. They are the same in different words.

Be determined today to right the sense of inferiority that has always clung to us. We are not special, but we are good in the eyes of God, good and innocent. And never let us forget these truths.

There Is Nothing to Fear

“There is nothing to fear. (WB77)”

Affirmation:  “There is nothing to fear.”

Reflections:

1 – Anxiety and the Ego

Anxiety will dog the way of the ego-prone.  And is that not all of us at some point(s) in our lives?  Why is this true?  The ego is constantly being undone, because we are comparing ourselves to others–some of whom, temporarily, have more than we do (stated in part in the Text).  This feeds an inferiority complex, because the ego-driven, ultimately, cannot be happy unless they are competing.  And competition, sooner or later, brings defeat.  We would do well to drop these egoic games.

2 – Jesus Says, “Nothing to Fear”

Jesus says that there is nothing to fear.  We probably do not yet see the world that way, but do we doubt Jesus?  We might say that in this world, today, there is much economic turmoil, many who are suffering, many war-torn areas of the globe.  And this would be true.  We are to do what we can to rectify the situation, after much prayer, but the most important change we can make–before other, outer changes, come–is to change ourselves to think along with God.  If we follow His rules for a happy day, for example, as detailed in the Text, we will feel more like doing something to truly help others.  We will not be so self-centered that we surround ourselves with fears for our own safety.

3 – Doubt Not A Course in Miracles

So let us not doubt A Course in Miracles when Jesus tells us therein that there is nothing to fear.  We can ask to be shown the better way, the way of quiet and peace.  In a calmer frame of mind, we truly will recognize that there is nothing to fear.  When we slip from a broader perspective, we can make an affirmation of this statement.  Repeatedly saying these words in times of stress will help tremendously.  And the time will come when it becomes a truth to recognize at all times.

Prayer:

Dear Father/Mother,

I would have a day free of anxiety, which is the way that fear usually manifests for me.  I am chagrined that I am still pursued by the ego enough so that fear in some form still accompanies me on some days.  I would not have it so today.  I would listen to Jesus and know that there is not reason for anxiety, no reason for fear.

Be with all of my brothers and sisters, those I know and those who read this blog.  May we come to understand the value of living a completely love-centered life, the best way that we can ensure that all of our days will be fearless.

Amen.