“Despite your bravest attempts to remain separate, you must use your brothers and sisters in order to even maintain the illusion of your separation. Would it not simply be better to end this charade? To admit that you were not created for separation but for union? To begin to let go of your fear of joining and, as you do, let go of use as well? (A Course of Love, 9.49)”
Affirmation: “union–not separation”
1 – Independence
This desire that we all have had, and many of us still seem to have, in being separate, is actually the laudatory way that we look on independence (an interpretation, not stated in ACOL). We think that not to “need” anybody, except perhaps “special” bodies, is all to the good. But has it ever worked for very long?
2 – We Need Union
We need union, and not just genuine union in holy relationships with our brothers and sisters, but also union with God. While union with God has never gone away, and could never go away, for we are part of Him, we can stay oblivious to this union. And when we are oblivious, we are unhappy and we feel separated. So in an unnatural way we turn to special relationships to solve our problems. And these special relationships seem to work for a time, and then they fail us, for they were not made in heaven, but in hell.
3 – Interdependent
We need to recognize that we are meant to be interdependent, which is quite different from the dependence that we all fear, to one extent or another. And interdependence is different from independence, which we never can sustain for very long at all.
4 – Union
Our union is a more positive, a more exalted, way of expressing our love with our brothers and sisters, and also, of course, with God. And union is also a more positive way of expressing interdependence.
5 – Joining in One
We can never be satisfied or happy alone, solely alone. We need God, and most of us need each other. Very few people are spiritual enough to rely solely on our union with God, and in all likelihood, we are in this world with other people because we cannot sustain separatism. May we join together today in the holy relationships that we are all intended to have.
May I see interdependence as the blessing that it is. May I no longer strive to independence that leaves my brothers and sisters out in the cold. We all need each other, and likewise we all need God. May we come to laud the interdependent nature of our world, and may we understand enough to carry out a relinquishment of independence.
The way in which I discuss independence with You does not rule out isolated times of independent thinking and doing. But we cannot sustain isolation from You and from others for an extended period of time. We are social creatures; that is the way that You created us. May we accept Your intentions today.