“Those who are seen as loveless and alone in the world are those you find to be the objects of your pity. Yet you do not realize that this is the state your ego has you endlessly striving to achieve. (A Course of Love, 1.13)”
Affirmation: “Let my ego wither away.”
1 – The Ego and Self-Sufficiency
The ego wants us to, somehow, make ourselves self-sufficient. We know this, if we stop to think. Has not much of our adjustment to society included the desire to be independent–first, from our parents, and later on, from almost anyone else as well. Our egos have prized independence. But is this natural?
2 – In Relationship to All
It is not natural to be “independent,” separate from God and our brothers and sisters. We are meant to be in relationship to all. In union with all and in relationship to all. We think that we want love, but on our own terms–to give and to receive when we are willing. Sometimes we agree to separate, and then to meet again when it is convenient to us (from the ACIM Manual). But love almost never turns out well this way.
3 – The Ultimate Independence
If we realized that the ultimate of independence would be being “loveless and alone,” then we would not prize the independence so much. We would see its failures in our own lives. And independence has failed mightily, most of the time.
4 – Being Cared For
Our ego has tried to make us feel guilty for wanting others to sometimes take care of us. But this caretaking is a two-way street most of the time. We can help others as well, at least until our oldest old age is reached. And we dread that day with a passion, though we would not die too early, unless we are driven to distraction by depression.
5 – Communicate with God
So let us not strive for independence, knowing that a failure to communicate with our Creator is most unnatural (from A Course in Miracles). God is always there to help. And He is eagerly leading us toward Christ-consciousness, which will be a strength that will show us when to turn to others and when to turn to God alone.
5 – Let’s Take Heed
Let us take heed today, and not strive for the independence that will leave us “loveless and alone.”
I thank You that I have rarely felt “loveless and alone,” though I have been known to cry into journal pages that seemed to indicate that. Thank You that those days seem far behind me now, with You as my Mainstay. Your blessings are the joys of my life, as they would be for anyone. When one love exits from a life, another enters. When one door closes, another farther down the pathway opens. You do not wish us to be loveless and alone.
Whey do we prize independence so much? Some of us may do so out of shyness, but we are never truly happy when we cut ourselves off from our brothers and sisters. We are, I feel, not meant to be alone. Some of us are more introverted, but a certain degree of love asks that we invite others into our heart.
Be with me on this lovely day. I thank You for the knowledge that we are not meant to be solitary creatures in a lonely world. We are meant to reach out. And, when we do, the heavens open for us.