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Be the Love that We Truly Are

“Letting your whole life be lived by the Christ who live in you, will release you from the fear of loss forever.  You will realize that the only thing you need is to be the love that you truly are.”  Choose Only Love:  Let Yourself Be Loved (COL bk.2, 12:II)

We fear loss of love from other people, but it is the love in our hearts that will save.  If we live the Christ-Self in us, we will be filled with the presence of love all the time.  We will know what it is to live in love.  We will be at peace, tranquil, relaxed, sure of God’s blessing on us.  When we live this love, we are “being” love.  This insulates us from rejection by others, something that we often experience as a loss of love.

I have long felt that rejection from other people is my Achilles’ heel.  I want so much to be accepted as a part of the group.  This builds confidence in me, gives me comfort.

But the only comfort actually comes from the love of God in us, and the Christ-Self is the inner manifestation of Him.  The Christ-Self still needs to learn things, of course, for it is finite.  But when we attune our minds and hearts to God through our inner essence, He responds.  We know no more rejection.  We live a serene existence.

So:  If we feel alone today, know that the love in us is the panacea.  When we love another, it is actually the love in ourselves that we are feeling.  It is because there is something in us that can love fully, in holy love.  This is the secret of holy relationships, the transformation that we all undergo with our brothers and sisters from special love to holy.

We must be this love.  If we invite God to act in our innermost being, we will in fact be this love.

Let’s do so today.

Each Time We Feel a Lack of Love, It Comes from Within Ourselves

“How can love always be present when you can undeniably feel each and every absence of love? The problem is in the perceiver rather than the perceived. Each time you feel a lack of love, it comes from within yourself. This lack of love, or “faked” love of which you cannot help but be aware, is a signal to you that you want something. When you become aware that you want something, you are also becoming aware that you feel you lack something. All feelings of lack are synonymous with feelings of fear.” (ACOL, C:25.5)

This quotation for today is pivotally important as we seek to make our way in the world. Rejection has been a personal theme song for me at various junctures in my life, and it is enormously helpful to know that when rejection seemed to happen, I was perceiving in error. I was not open to receiving love. I had wanted something extraneous to the central point of love. My ego had gotten involved.

Has your ego gotten involved as you thought you wanted something other than pure love? Was there something grandiose in your imaginings? Was there something egoic in the sense of material or status implications? Very likely there was, for that is what Jesus is telling us in this quotation.

When we think that we lack for something, we are in a state of fear. This is, likewise, important to know in regard to this love business, this rejection business. There are no lacks in God’s Kingdom, and His Kingdom is not only the Other Side, but this world—when we have perceived this world differently. We will inhabit this world as the elevated Self of form, the coming together of mind and heart in unity, the coming out of the Self whom we have kept hidden for so very long.

Know that rejection is an illusion. We were not open to the love that others had for us; we rejected internally. Likewise, they shouldn’t have felt rejection from us, for they too had no lack.

This may sound like science fiction, but I believe what Jesus says. And his true words will have us walking into a much more favorable condition in this world. We don’t have to fear the lack of love, for it is truly all around us.

Dear Father/Mother,

Help me to perceive love all around me. Help me to know that the rejection that I have sometimes felt in my life has been a mirage. I would see mirages no longer. Help me to see only love, for that is who You are, and who I am.

Be with all of us as we walk through this day. This day is bright with promise now that we know that rejection records don’t have to be played over and over.

Help us to reach out to others, fearless of rejection—for the problem is in us, the perceivers. May we leave rejection behind, as we have left the ego behind.

Amen.

Only Those Who Give Over All Desire to Reject Can Know that Their Own Rejection Is Impossible

manet - fifer“Only those who give over all desire to reject can know that their own rejection is impossible. (T48)”

Affirmation: “give over all desire to reject”

Reflections:

1 – Rejection Is of the Ego

Rejection is of the ego, and once we relinquish the desire to reject our brother, we too know that our Self cannot be rejected by God. This may be hard to incorporate into our self-image. We may have played rejection records–going around and around on an illusory turntable–for years. Some of us never quite get over the first rejection from a romantic interest in high school. But knowing that rejection is of the ego, we can soothe our troubled memories.

2 – God Never Rejects

Knowing this is a great release. We cannot be rejected by God! What a glorious incentive to give up the ego. Knowing that God does not reject may seem cold comfort in our low moods. We may not feel the warmth of His presence as we do at other times. We may wish for a human being to return our love, and that reciprocation just may be lacking from our lives.

3 – What to Do in Romantic Rejection

What do we do then? What if a special someone has rejected us, and we cannot seem to get beyond the hurt? We can know that love does not ever leave us–just sometimes it comes in other forms than the romantic package that our culture has led us to see as the greatest blessing. Actually the romantic love of our culture is defining a special relationship, and A Course in Miracles counsels us that this is of the ego, not read at all. Even when we are in a relationship, we are counseled to turn that specialness into the holy. That is the only way to find lasting peace. That is truly the only way to love authentically.

4 – Worst Experiences

All of us have known rejection. We may remember these incidents as among the worst of our life. But we do not have to be wounded irreparably. There is a way out. Once we have started to turn away from the ego, our perceptions are cleansed, and we at that time know less rejection from others. This is a principal motivator of ACIM. And once motivation has been increased, we are well on our way to the Atonement.

5 – Disappointments

Rejection from others, or our own personal rejection of self or others, can be one of the main disappointments in life. Once we truly realize that it is ourselves who have initiated any rejection, even when it seems to come from others, we are healed. “Projection makes perception,” as ACIM tells us. We had a hand in our own rejection. And we can choose again. Indeed, we must choose again–if we are to be healed.

Prayer:

Dear Father,

May we realize that in rejection, we are in the driver’s seat. We have made this situation, however much we may try to blame others. Help us especially not to blame You.

I thank You for the time that healed my own experiences with rejection from others. I thank You that now my significant relationships are in the process of being turned into holy relationships. May I do my part to see this process continue and to be completed, in Your good time.

May we cease to contemplate rejection in any form. When this is accomplished, we will be well on our way to Atonement, a lasting Atonement.

Amen.

Rejection

“Only those who give over all desire to reject can know that their own rejection is impossible.  (T48)”

Affirmation:  “give over all desire to reject”

Reflections:

1 – Give Up the Ego and Rejection – Both!

Rejection is of the ego, and once we relinquish the desire to reject our brother, we too know that our Self cannot be rejected by God.  Knowing this is a great release.  We cannot be rejected by God!  What a glorious incentive to give up the ego.

2 – Personal Experience

We sometimes see rejection when there has been none.  I think back over some of my actions, and I realize that the people involved may have read rejection when I was actually being shy.  Introversion can seem like rejection.  We cannot always see into our own motivations, and certainly others cannot see into our motivations either.  All of us need to realize that personalities differ, and what we thought that we meant may have been totally misunderstood.  We may have been calling for love in the only way that, at the moment, we knew.  And our own diffidence may have masked that call.

3 – All Have Known Rejection

All of us have known rejection.  We may remember these incidents as among the worst of our life.  But we do not have to be wounded irreparably.  There is a way out.  Once we have started to turn away from the ego, our perceptions are cleansed, and we at that time know less rejection from others.  This is a principal motivator of the Course.  And once motivation has been increased, we are well on our way to the Atonement.

4 – Rejection Always Starts with Ourselves

If we want Atonement, we must realize that nobody is actually rejecting us.  It always starts with ourselves.  We are projecting a perception of rejection, and so it becomes true for us.  This is the pain of living in an illusion.  We make what we see outside of ourselves; we are participating in the mass hallucination (an interpretation of ACIM, not stated therein).

5 – We Are Healed

Rejection from others, or our own personal rejection of self or others, can be one of the main disappointments in life.  Once we truly realize that it is ourselves who have initiated any rejection, even when it seems to come from others, we are healed.

Prayer:

Dear Father/Mother,

May we realize that in rejection, we are in the driver’s seat.  We have made this situation, however much we may try to blame others.  Help us especially not to blame You.

May we cease to contemplate rejection in any form.  When this is accomplished, we will be well on our way to Atonement, a lasting Atonement.

Amen.