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Tenderness in Our World

“Where you learned to hate, you will learn to love. Where you learned to fear, you will learn safety. Where you learned to distrust, you will learn trust. And each learning experience will be a learning experience because it will touch your heart. It may be as simple as a smile from a child that melts away all the resentment you held from your childhood—because you allow that smile to touch your heart. It may be a time of weepiness and what you would term emotionalism. You may feel as if everything makes you want to cry because everything will touch you, each lesson will feel tender. Unlearning has no harshness about it. If you simply allow it to come, it will reward you constantly with what can best be described as tenderness.” (ACOL, C:24.1)

When we read on in A Course of Love, the beauty of the words lulls us into a sense of comfort. This comfort is called the “time of tenderness,” when we may even weep for apparently no reason. These are heart-warming moments, not to be pushed aside but embraced. These will take us every closer to the salvation that we all seek. These will take us Home.

Unlearning is gentle. And our life experiences, as we learned yesterday, will lead us to this change. We don’t need to rush things, or to be become frustrated because things don’t seem to be happening as we want. The beauty of this time of tenderness is that it creeps up on us in unguarded moments, moments filled with joy. We weep in joy, not frustration, anger, or resentment—and not even from sadness. We may, it is true, be somewhat melancholy in these times, but we will not regret the melancholy. We will lean into it, and when we do so, we allow it to teach us new things, new things from observation of our world.

Dear Father/Mother,

May this day in the time of tenderness lead me to a patience with myself and all others, my brothers and sisters in Christ. May I also have patience if I see others who are still caught in egoic nonsense; the ego will cease to capture all of us one day, and may that day come sooner rather than later.

Help me to be patient with myself, to let the tears flow when they want. I am heartened by the heartwarming feelings that flow over me. And I hope that this means that my heart is softening to a forgiveness of myself and all others, even You, for creating a reality that I, in my ignorance, sometimes have rued.

Amen.

No Better Way to Spend a Day

rouen cathedral“The new means of thinking is referred to here as the ‘art’ of thought in order to call your wholehearted attention to the continual act of creation that is the relationship between creator and created.  Creation is but a dialogue to which you have not responded.  The art of thought will free you to respond.  (The Treatises of A Course of Love:  Treatise on the Art of Thought, 2.12)”

Affirmation:  “I will practice the art of thought.”

Reflections:

1 – Unlearning

We need to unlearn the way that we have been “learning.”  We have been using our ego-mind, and now we are encouraged to observe through wholeheartedness.  This is the art of thought, as Jesus describes it.  We arre unlearning the old way, and we are “learning” through observation.  We no longer use our left brain as much.  Our thought is more abstract.  And this is the very reason that reading and “learning” A Course of Love can seem frustrating.  We are still trying to learn in the old manner.

2 – Read like a Story

Let us stop this inefficiency of learning now.  Let us relax in our learning, reading as we would ready a story.  We do not need to concentrate with wrinkled brow.  There is a better way.  And the art of thought shows us what it is.

3 – Christ-Consciousness

We experience more real creation, rather than the things that we made with our ego.  Our Christ-consciousness creates in a way that the ego-mind never could (though it tried mightily).

4 – Create

Let us create today.  Let us ask for help in creating.  There is no better way to spend a day.

5 – Call to Create

We have not responded to this call to create previously.  We have chosen to be afraid instead.  Let us drop fear now, and create with the art of thought–the means of observation that will help us to learn aright.

Prayer:

Dear Father/Mother,

I would observe rather than allow my ego-mind to ruin what could be a good day.  I will observe the world around me, and I will ask for help in understanding what I am seeing.  I will practice the new way of learning through the “art of thought.”

Be with me as I seek to make this transformation real.  There is no better way to proceed on my walk to You.  Be with me, with Your felt Presence, as I try to convert an old way of learning to a new, more effective way.  It is time for all of us to do what we can to effect transformation in ourselves and in our world.  But You must call the shots.  We are lost without Your guiding Presence.

Amen.

Dedicate All Thought to Union

“If you will remember that the one exercise for your mind is dedicating all thought to union, you will bridgepontoise2pissarrokeep your mind engaged and less resistant to unlearning.  When you feel resistance–and of course your mind will resist unlearning what it has striven to learn–return your dedication to union.  Acknowledge your mind’s resistance as a sign that unlearning is going on.  Acknowledge it but do not engage it.  (A Course of Love, 23.25)”

Affirmation:  “I would focus on union today.”

Reflections:

1 – Union

Union is the fact that all relationship is One.  We are one with God, with our Selves/Christ, and with our fellow human beings–not to mention the world itself and the universe of which the world is a part.  There seem to be many parts to what surrounds us, but all are united as One.  And that is the unlearning that we must choose to focus upon today.

2 – Resistance

When we resist this axiom, then we can know that we are actually in the process of unlearning.  We are actually on the way home.  The resistance from the ego, mightily weakened by now, is strong, but it is not insurmountable.  We do not have to add our resistance to that in which our ego is engaged.  We can simply turn aside from resisting, just choose a different pathway, and all will be well.

3 – Turn to the Heart

The mind is the home of the ego, and we would do well to turn to our heart today.  We need to truth of the heart to carry us through the mind’s resistance.  If the mind questions, “How can this be?,” we can counter with our own heart’s response:  It does not matter “how,” just that it is true.  This is what the passage means when the words say, “Acknowledge it but do not engage it.”

4 – Be Patient

We need to listen to our hearts more and more as time passes.  Eventually, in A Course of Love, we will join mind to heart, in wholeheartedness, and all will be well.  We are getting there, but we have not arrived yet.  In this in between time, let us be patient.

Prayer:

Dear Father/Mother,

I would unlearn some of what I have tried, in my ego, to learn–and I have striven mightily.  Help me to recognize union when I see it.  Help me to acknowledge that union is what I want more than anything, most especially union with You.

Be with me as I seek to unlearn those things that would hold me back from Awakening.  I know that Awakening is Your blessing for me, and I wait in patience.

Amen.